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3 Expertly Approved Ways You Can Make Dating Less Challenging

3 Expertly Approved Ways You Can Make Dating Less Challenging
Dating can be difficult for a myriad of reasons. As a relationship coach, and as someone who was married, divorced, dated as a single woman, dated as a divorcee, and as a single parent, dating was one of my least favorite things to do. Often, I would purposefully sabotage my relationships out the gate. I would find ways to discredit and disown any feelings I may have or develop for someone by immediately focusing on what was wrong with them versus paying attention to what was right. And also ignoring what I needed to do to improve who I was as a person. It was my protective shield and self-d...

10 Non-Negotiable Rules For Dating Smart in 2018

10 Non-Negotiable Rules For Dating Smart in 2018
The dating scene has evolved with online dating, dating apps, texting, and other technology. While many aspects of dating have changed a great deal, with all the new options available now, you may wonder how can you be smarter in your approach to dating. While some of the traditional rules associated with dating still apply, there are new rules too! If you want to date smarter, keep these ten rules in mind. 1. A first date should take place where you are comfortable. The first date does not have to be formal. In fact, the more informal it is, the more comfortable you may feel. This helps ...

The Ultimate Survival Guide for the Introvert Who Is Looking for Love

The Ultimate Survival Guide for the Introvert Who Is Looking for Love
Dating and the Introvert I never liked the definition used to describe an introvert found in the dictionary. It says something about a “shy and reticent person” or “a person predominantly concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things.” While I think some of these descriptors of an introvert may hold some truth, I’m of the opinion that introverts are simply more reflective. They care less about what others say or do and value self-discovery and doing a deeper level of thinking. Introverts are, by nature, highly introspective. It’s easy to see how some of thes...

14 Ways to Celebrate Valentine’s Day When You’re Single

14 Ways to Celebrate Valentine’s Day When You’re Single
It's that time of year again. Valentine's Day is quickly approaching. I don't know about you, but as much as V-Day is known as a romantic holiday, I think it's time to make Valentine's Day more inclusive. These are some ideas of how to turn it up on Valentine's Day when you're single. Just because you're single doesn't mean you have to feel left out of the festivities. And if you're single there are some unique ways you can celebrate and make the most out of Valentine's Day. Here are 14 ways to do so: 1. Love Thyself.RuPaul, a famous drag queen, and moderator of the show, Drag Rac...

7 Things You Should Know Before Walking Down The Aisle And Saying ‘I Do’

7 Things You Should Know Before Walking Down The Aisle And Saying ‘I Do’
It can be a journey to find love. So when you do meet someone and fall in love, the next natural step is a desire to marry them. But, before you take that walk down the aisle, it’s crucial that you know these 7 things about your significant other: 1. Communication is everything. What is your communication style and is it similar to your significant other? One of the best ways to know if your relationship can stand the test of time is to pay attention to how you communicate with one another. It’s so easy not to say exactly how you feel out of fear of not wanting to hurt your partner. But,...

3 Reasons Why Self-Love Is Important

3 Reasons Why Self-Love Is Important
As a relationship coach, people often ask me why they are having a difficult time attracting the right people into their lives. They lament the difficulty of navigating dating, meeting people who are dysfunctional, or who don’t add value to their life. I get it. I’ve had my ups and downs when it came to finding someone who was truly compatible with me. And the reality is dating can be hard. I had to go through many instances where I even started to think maybe it was me that was the problem. Then I had an epiphany which helped me to understand things a lot better. The foundation for any hea...

5 Resolutions For Your Relationship In 2018

5 Resolutions For Your Relationship In 2018
2018 is upon us again. If you are anything like me, having downtime during the holiday season gives you a chance to pause and reflect and give additional consideration to your personal relationship, how you can reignite the passion, or if it’s simply time for a relationship reset. As you head into 2018, here are a couple of ways to make sure you are doing the right things to have a healthier relationship. Argue fairly There was a psychologist who studied thousands of couples and could tell based on one thing if their relationship had real longevity. He paid attention to how the...

Interview with Elizabeth Overstreet, Author and Relationship Coach

Interview with Elizabeth Overstreet, Author and Relationship Coach
On today’s Client Spotlight, I am very proud to introduce you to Elizabeth Overstreet. Elizabeth is a relationship expert and the author of Love You and He Will Too: The Smart Woman’s Roadmap for Happy, Healthy Relationships. She’s a digital contributor to Jet Magazine and is a regular on radio and TV. I feel most of us expect relationships to run on auto-pilot, and when they don’t go smoothly, we have no idea how to fix them. Being a writer of character-driven stories, relationships are central to every plot I create. I took this opportunity to satisfy my curiosity about love, marriage, an...

5 Rules of Relationship Self-Care

5 Rules of Relationship Self-Care
Originally published in Jet Magazine I’m sure you can relate, but I use to let things build to a crescendo. Work stress, taking care of my significant other, my daughter and everyone else’s needs above my own would literally push my stress levels so high to the point where I would hit the wall. Not literally, but emotionally. And I would just keep trying to continue to push myself forward without taking time to pause and care for myself. As you can imagine, this was quite ineffective. The bottom line was that when I neglected my own self-care, everything around me got out of whack. If...

Is Infidelity the End of a Relationship?

Is Infidelity the End of a Relationship?
Originally published in Jet Magazine It use to be a time when infidelity was a deal breaker. After all, no one goes into a marriage with the goal of being unfaithful. But it appears as if times have changed. Although we marry with the intent of monogamy, infidelity can happen even when couples are well-suited for one another. But how do you know whether to throw in the towel or forgive your spouse for an indiscretion? If I asked 10 couples how they would react if their significant other cheated on them, their responses would vary. Some couples hold traditional values, while other coup...