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7 Things To Remember When You’re Trying To Love Despite Feeling Broken

7 Things To Remember When You’re Trying To Love Despite Feeling Broken
Learning to trust and love again after someone has shattered your heart is perhaps one of the most challenging things you do. Once someone violates your trust and disrespects you, it can feel as though it’s impossible for you to recover from heartbreak. But, the good news is that you can.Here are some immediate steps to help you get there: You Are Not Alone 1. Realize we are all broken, and you are not alone. No one is perfect and don’t let them ever make you think you are ‘less-then’ because of the experiences you have had. Everyone and I mean every single person, brings some baggage to...
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11 Specific Reasons Why We Love Toxic Relationships And Unavailable Partners

11 Specific Reasons Why We Love Toxic Relationships And Unavailable Partners
If I were to crystalize what a toxic relationship is, I would highlight a couple featured in a Comedy Central show with Key and Peele, featuring the couple Meegan and Andre. I’m not sure if you are a Key and Peele fan, but they are two comedians who use to have a show on Comedy Central called Key & Peele. They would often do a skit of a couple, Meegan, and Andre who had one of the unhealthiest relationships ever. If you saw the skit, and were or are in a toxic relationship, you would relate to them. Because it is a comedy, the skit about this couple was a bit over the top. But, you coul...
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9 Everyday Ways We Overcomplicate Love

9 Everyday Ways We Overcomplicate Love
When you are at the beginning of a relationship, it can be challenging to figure out if it is the right fit. Part of this is because we get so many confusing messages about what love is and what type of relationship you need. But, love doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are nine ways to filter out the complications that often stop us from finding love and determine what works for you: 1. Determine the type of relationship you want. It is the most important thing you need to focus on so you are in the right relationship. Stop comparing and looking to others for guidance. What works for t...
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8 Tips For The Person Who Is About To Give Up On Love

8 Tips For The Person Who Is About To Give Up On Love
If you asked my friends one of my worst qualities, they would probably say it is the fact that I can be annoyingly analytical. I tend to overthink things. Sometimes that has worked well for me, but often it has the opposite effect especially when it related to my relationships. Then something strange happened. I stopped overthinking, assuming what the other person in the relationship was thinking, or figuring out in my mind what their actions might mean. I had to do a complete juxtaposition. I almost gave up on love because I started to think that maybe it just wasn’t meant to be. Yes, it’...
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Why Vulnerability is the Best Aphrodisiac

Why Vulnerability is the Best Aphrodisiac
Originally published in Elephant Journal. As a relationship coach, I have noticed the strong impact of vulnerability on sexual attraction. And as a real person who dates, I have seen the undeniable effects of vulnerability in my own life. Which is why I want to share the concept with you. Everyone is relationship challenged Even relationship coaches can have relationship challenges. Our challenges, or what I call "relationship setbacks,"  make us wise and understanding coaches. We know how hard it is to find love. Because we've been there and experienced ups and downs in the journe...
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3 Reasons Why Bad Relationships are the Best Teachers

3 Reasons Why Bad Relationships are the Best Teachers
Good relationships can teach us a lot. But bad relationships can teach us things too. In fact, our appreciation of a good relationship strengthens after we've been through bad relationships. Love is splendid and crazy. The ups, downs, good and bad times, good love, bad love, separations and reunions and break-ups combine to create interesting dynamics. This can show us who, how, and why we love. When a relationship is going well and the love is good, it is the best feeling. But when love takes a turn and things fall apart in a relationship, it can be the worst feeling. This may leave you...
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Interview with Elizabeth Overstreet, Author and Relationship Coach

Interview with Elizabeth Overstreet, Author and Relationship Coach
On today’s Client Spotlight, I am very proud to introduce you to Elizabeth Overstreet. Elizabeth is a relationship expert and the author of Love You and He Will Too: The Smart Woman’s Roadmap for Happy, Healthy Relationships. She’s a digital contributor to Jet Magazine and is a regular on radio and TV. I feel most of us expect relationships to run on auto-pilot, and when they don’t go smoothly, we have no idea how to fix them. Being a writer of character-driven stories, relationships are central to every plot I create. I took this opportunity to satisfy my curiosity about love, marriage, an...
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5 Ways to Hook Up Your Online Dating Profile

5 Ways to Hook Up Your Online Dating Profile
Originally published on Jet Magazine Tips to help you stand out from the rest and snag his or her heart just in time... Did you know that 45% of relationships begin via online dating? The pros of online dating are many, but if you’re still struggling with your online dating profile, here are five quick ways to get your profile right. 1) Stop being so damn picky. You know the series of questions you get asked on each online dating site as you’re building your profile? The ones relating to your criteria in a partner? A lot of dating sites use your responses to measure not only who you ar...
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5 SEX BOOSTERS FOR THE LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP

5 SEX BOOSTERS FOR THE LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP
I use to think that being in a long-term relationship would be boring. Being with the same person, experiencing the same circle of events along with the monotony of similar and repeatable sexual experiences just seemed uninteresting. And then I had an epiphany. What you put into your relationship is what you get out of it. Relationships stall and become dull when you start taking each other for granted. They also may experience setbacks or problems when you fail to continue developing the areas that made your relationship strong in the first place. But, the beauty of a long-term relat...
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5 Ways to Invite Love Into Your Life

5 Ways to Invite Love Into Your Life
Originally Published in Jet Magazine A new year always brings new possibilities. It’s an opportunity to learn from past relationship mistakes, put bad relationships behind you and to love smarter so you can have a more fulfilling relationship. In order to obtain something new, you must try something new. Here are five ways to invite—and keep—love into your life. 1) Find your tribe. Think about how much effort you put into planning your favorite vacation. You get down to the nitty-gritty details to make sure each moment counts. Approach your dating life in the same way. Look at it as an...
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