marriage

How Important is Marriage… Really?

How Important is Marriage… Really?
An expert examines the importance of marriage in modern relationships... Originally published on Jet Magazine There has been an interesting trend developing in China concerning marriage. Chinese women are moving away from the desire to get married. This has presented a problem in the country, where marriage was once a strong tradition. With an aging population, having rid themselves of the one-child policy and more men available than women, Chinese women have their pick of men. However, Chinese men are struggling to persuade their women to marry them. Why Did People Marry? Historica...
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Is Infidelity the End of a Relationship?

Is Infidelity the End of a Relationship?
Originally published in Jet Magazine It use to be a time when infidelity was a deal breaker. After all, no one goes into a marriage with the goal of being unfaithful. But it appears as if times have changed. Although we marry with the intent of monogamy, infidelity can happen even when couples are well-suited for one another. But how do you know whether to throw in the towel or forgive your spouse for an indiscretion? If I asked 10 couples how they would react if their significant other cheated on them, their responses would vary. Some couples hold traditional values, while other coup...
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3 Post Divorce Lessons – You Will Survive!

3 Post Divorce Lessons – You Will Survive!
Sometimes you have days of introspection when you reflect on your life, and how things come full circle. You wonder if you made the right decisions, taken the right paths, are raising your kids the right way and what you may have missed along the way. This weekend was full of those types of thoughts for me, and I started thinking a lot about what I learned post-divorce that enabled me to move forward. If you are in the throes of a relationship, wondering what is going to happen next, these lessons may be helpful to you too. 1. You will be happy again. Divorce ranks in the top 3 of th...
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Relationship Equality: Myth or Goal?

Relationship Equality: Myth or Goal?
"Give the world the best you have and the best will come back to you." —Madeline Bridges I love this quote! It is applicable to so many aspects of our lives. For example, work, education, avocation, sports. We know that if we want to succeed in any endeavor, we have to work at it. This is true for family, school, business, exercise, and other life endeavors. Success takes hard work. But it is achievable. It can be done. Succeeding in Your Relationship But does hard work really pay off when it comes to our relationships? (more…)
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Divorce Selfies: The New Way to Breaking Up  

Divorce Selfies: The New Way to Breaking Up   
             Photo Credit: Zliving  Divorce selfies are trending on Twitter and Instagram under the hashtag #divorceselfies. This is an interesting phenomenon involving people who wish to publicize their divorce. They typically post a happy picture of themselves as a couple following the finalization of the divorce. Many acknowledge how glad they are to have had the relationship, but speak of accepting that the relationship did not work out. This is a sign of couples opting to bow out gracefully during the process of divorce.  This is a new trend in divorce. Gone is the acrimony, the fig...
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What Can We Learn from Brad and Angelina?

What Can We Learn from Brad and Angelina?
A recent interview with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie indicated several impressive aspects of their relationship. I wasn't surprised. But many people might be. After all, the general public has a range of reactions to the two superstar celebrities. If you polled people about Brad and Angelina’s marriage and how they feel about the couple, responses would be polarized. Some find their relationship romantic and inspirational. But many people cling to opinions from the past. They think Brad was stolen away from Jennifer Aniston, to whom he was married when he fell for Angelina. They may claim A...
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Bill Cosby: Why is the African-American Community Protecting Him?

Bill Cosby: Why is the African-American Community Protecting Him?
Bill Cosby and other fragmented African-American men are a sore topic these days. Black males in America have been demoralized throughout our history and, as a result, the black community has become protective of their image, character representation, and how we discuss them in public. Race discussions can be highly charged. We are hypersensitive because of the backlash associated with racism. Nobody wants to be perceived as a racist. There is also a troubling social double standard so whenever a minority male does something wrong, the reflection on the African-American community as a whole...
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Why Is Camille Still Married to Bill Cosby?

Why Is Camille Still Married to Bill Cosby?
     Bill and Camille Cosby      KEVIN WOLF/AP IMAGES   Given the allegations against Bill Cosby, if you were Camille Cosby, why would you stay married to Bill? Please share your comments. *** You are capable of receiving love. There is a relationship that will work for you. Sometimes all you need is a nudge in the right direction. If you are struggling with your current relationship, newly divorced and looking to get back in the dating scene, or single and trying to find the right person for you, maybe I can help. Reach out to me at therelationshipinvestigator@gmail.com...
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The Khloe Kardashian Dilemma: Forgive or Move On?

The Khloe Kardashian Dilemma: Forgive or Move On?
Photo Credit - US Magazine Reality versus Reality I am not a big reality show fan, but I have to admit it is brave to put your yourself and your life out there for the world to see, vulnerabilities and all. This makes it that much more interesting for me as I watch the current drama between Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian unfold. Will they give love another chance? Should they? (more…)
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Should You Stay Married for the Sake of the Kids?

Should You Stay Married for the Sake of the Kids?
Relationships tend to be great in the beginning. Getting along is usually a lot easier when you first get together with someone. After all, there are less dynamics to deal with when you only have two people in a relationship. However, as relationships mature, more responsibilities are added and a couple becomes a family. This expands the number of challenges you have to face, changing the dynamics of the relationship. (more…)
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