marriage

Why Vulnerability is the Best Aphrodisiac

Why Vulnerability is the Best Aphrodisiac
Originally published in Elephant Journal. As a relationship coach, I have noticed the strong impact of vulnerability on sexual attraction. And as a real person who dates, I have seen the undeniable effects of vulnerability in my own life. Which is why I want to share the concept with you. Everyone is relationship challenged Even relationship coaches can have relationship challenges. Our challenges, or what I call "relationship setbacks,"  make us wise and understanding coaches. We know how hard it is to find love. Because we've been there and experienced ups and downs in the journe...
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Interview with Elizabeth Overstreet, Author and Relationship Coach

Interview with Elizabeth Overstreet, Author and Relationship Coach
On today’s Client Spotlight, I am very proud to introduce you to Elizabeth Overstreet. Elizabeth is a relationship expert and the author of Love You and He Will Too: The Smart Woman’s Roadmap for Happy, Healthy Relationships. She’s a digital contributor to Jet Magazine and is a regular on radio and TV. I feel most of us expect relationships to run on auto-pilot, and when they don’t go smoothly, we have no idea how to fix them. Being a writer of character-driven stories, relationships are central to every plot I create. I took this opportunity to satisfy my curiosity about love, marriage, an...
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5 SEX BOOSTERS FOR THE LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP

5 SEX BOOSTERS FOR THE LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP
I use to think that being in a long-term relationship would be boring. Being with the same person, experiencing the same circle of events along with the monotony of similar and repeatable sexual experiences just seemed uninteresting. And then I had an epiphany. What you put into your relationship is what you get out of it. Relationships stall and become dull when you start taking each other for granted. They also may experience setbacks or problems when you fail to continue developing the areas that made your relationship strong in the first place. But, the beauty of a long-term relat...
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How Important is Marriage… Really?

How Important is Marriage… Really?
An expert examines the importance of marriage in modern relationships... Originally published on Jet Magazine There has been an interesting trend developing in China concerning marriage. Chinese women are moving away from the desire to get married. This has presented a problem in the country, where marriage was once a strong tradition. With an aging population, having rid themselves of the one-child policy and more men available than women, Chinese women have their pick of men. However, Chinese men are struggling to persuade their women to marry them. Why Did People Marry? Historica...
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Is Infidelity the End of a Relationship?

Is Infidelity the End of a Relationship?
Originally published in Jet Magazine It use to be a time when infidelity was a deal breaker. After all, no one goes into a marriage with the goal of being unfaithful. But it appears as if times have changed. Although we marry with the intent of monogamy, infidelity can happen even when couples are well-suited for one another. But how do you know whether to throw in the towel or forgive your spouse for an indiscretion? If I asked 10 couples how they would react if their significant other cheated on them, their responses would vary. Some couples hold traditional values, while other coup...
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3 Post Divorce Lessons – You Will Survive!

3 Post Divorce Lessons – You Will Survive!
Sometimes you have days of introspection when you reflect on your life, and how things come full circle. You wonder if you made the right decisions, taken the right paths, are raising your kids the right way and what you may have missed along the way. This weekend was full of those types of thoughts for me, and I started thinking a lot about what I learned post-divorce that enabled me to move forward. If you are in the throes of a relationship, wondering what is going to happen next, these lessons may be helpful to you too. 1. You will be happy again. Divorce ranks in the top 3 of th...
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Relationship Equality: Myth or Goal?

Relationship Equality: Myth or Goal?
"Give the world the best you have and the best will come back to you." —Madeline Bridges I love this quote! It is applicable to so many aspects of our lives. For example, work, education, avocation, sports. We know that if we want to succeed in any endeavor, we have to work at it. This is true for family, school, business, exercise, and other life endeavors. Success takes hard work. But it is achievable. It can be done. Succeeding in Your Relationship But does hard work really pay off when it comes to our relationships? (more…)
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Divorce Selfies: The New Way to Breaking Up  

Divorce Selfies: The New Way to Breaking Up   
             Photo Credit: Zliving  Divorce selfies are trending on Twitter and Instagram under the hashtag #divorceselfies. This is an interesting phenomenon involving people who wish to publicize their divorce. They typically post a happy picture of themselves as a couple following the finalization of the divorce. Many acknowledge how glad they are to have had the relationship, but speak of accepting that the relationship did not work out. This is a sign of couples opting to bow out gracefully during the process of divorce.  This is a new trend in divorce. Gone is the acrimony, the fig...
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What Can We Learn from Brad and Angelina?

What Can We Learn from Brad and Angelina?
A recent interview with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie indicated several impressive aspects of their relationship. I wasn't surprised. But many people might be. After all, the general public has a range of reactions to the two superstar celebrities. If you polled people about Brad and Angelina’s marriage and how they feel about the couple, responses would be polarized. Some find their relationship romantic and inspirational. But many people cling to opinions from the past. They think Brad was stolen away from Jennifer Aniston, to whom he was married when he fell for Angelina. They may claim A...
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Bill Cosby: Why is the African-American Community Protecting Him?

Bill Cosby: Why is the African-American Community Protecting Him?
Bill Cosby and other fragmented African-American men are a sore topic these days. Black males in America have been demoralized throughout our history and, as a result, the black community has become protective of their image, character representation, and how we discuss them in public. Race discussions can be highly charged. We are hypersensitive because of the backlash associated with racism. Nobody wants to be perceived as a racist. There is also a troubling social double standard so whenever a minority male does something wrong, the reflection on the African-American community as a whole...
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