relationships

9 Everyday Ways We Overcomplicate Love

9 Everyday Ways We Overcomplicate Love
When you are at the beginning of a relationship, it can be challenging to figure out if it is the right fit. Part of this is because we get so many confusing messages about what love is and what type of relationship you need. But, love doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are nine ways to filter out the complications that often stop us from finding love and determine what works for you: 1. Determine the type of relationship you want. It is the most important thing you need to focus on so you are in the right relationship. Stop comparing and looking to others for guidance. What works for t...
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8 Tips For The Person Who Is About To Give Up On Love

8 Tips For The Person Who Is About To Give Up On Love
If you asked my friends one of my worst qualities, they would probably say it is the fact that I can be annoyingly analytical. I tend to overthink things. Sometimes that has worked well for me, but often it has the opposite effect especially when it related to my relationships. Then something strange happened. I stopped overthinking, assuming what the other person in the relationship was thinking, or figuring out in my mind what their actions might mean. I had to do a complete juxtaposition. I almost gave up on love because I started to think that maybe it just wasn’t meant to be. Yes, it’...
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Dating After 40 — Here’s The Bright Side

Dating After 40 — Here’s The Bright Side
I don’t know about you, but I can’t take another heartbreaking story about it being nearly impossible to find love if you are not in your 20’s or 30’s. Life is what you make it! And sorry, but your age doesn’t determine if your shot at love will be better or worse. Roadmap to Love As a Relationship Coach, I have helped clients of different ages find love. And guess what; no one has a higher probability of success in love based upon their age, physical appearance, and sexiness. The opportunity for love exists for each and everyone of us. But, if I had to take an educated guess, t...
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Emotional Abuse — This Is What It Looks Like

Emotional Abuse — This Is What It Looks Like
This topic is one that is close to my heart. So many suffer silently in emotionally abusive relationships. About 60% of women will experience some form of abuse during their lifetime. While it may be easier to walk away from more identifiable types of dysfunction in a relationship, emotional abuse isn’t always so blatant. What Is Emotional Abuse? Emotional abuse can be subtle at first. An emotionally abusive relationship usually begins in a normal way. The person will spend a lot of time in the beginning phases of the relationship building goodwill with you. They make you feel safe emotio...
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7 Ways to Get Over a Break-Up

7 Ways to Get Over a Break-Up
Being heartbroken is one of the craziest feelings you can experience. It rocks your world. One moment you feel like you will be ok. And then in the next moments you are crying, feeling emotionally empty, and venting to all of your friends about how love sucks, and how you will never, ever allow someone into your emotional heart space again. Love is a two-edged sword for sure. When you fall in love with someone, it is one of the best feelings ever. But, when someone you love breaks up with you unexpectedly, or you end a relationship you thought was forever, it can make the most rational person...
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This Is Everything You Need To Know About Finding A Healthy Relationship

This Is Everything You Need To Know About Finding A Healthy Relationship
No one ever said dating was easy. Social media and dating apps have entirely changed the dating landscape. However, if you are aware what to look for in your quest for love, navigating dating to find someone who is compatible with you can be easier. There are so many things which have probably happened to you in your dating experience. And this can make any sane person want to give up. But, before you are ghosted, DTR’d, or experience a slow fade, here are some helpful ways to determine if you are in a relationship that is on the right path. The bottom line is that people date in different w...
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3 Reasons Why Self-Love Is Important

3 Reasons Why Self-Love Is Important
As a relationship coach, people often ask me why they are having a difficult time attracting the right people into their lives. They lament the difficulty of navigating dating, meeting people who are dysfunctional, or who don’t add value to their life. I get it. I’ve had my ups and downs when it came to finding someone who was truly compatible with me. And the reality is dating can be hard. I had to go through many instances where I even started to think maybe it was me that was the problem. Then I had an epiphany which helped me to understand things a lot better. The foundation for any hea...
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5 Resolutions For Your Relationship In 2018

5 Resolutions For Your Relationship In 2018
2018 is upon us again. If you are anything like me, having downtime during the holiday season gives you a chance to pause and reflect and give additional consideration to your personal relationship, how you can reignite the passion, or if it’s simply time for a relationship reset. As you head into 2018, here are a couple of ways to make sure you are doing the right things to have a healthier relationship. Argue fairly There was a psychologist who studied thousands of couples and could tell based on one thing if their relationship had real longevity. He paid attention to how the...
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Why Vulnerability is the Best Aphrodisiac

Why Vulnerability is the Best Aphrodisiac
Originally published in Elephant Journal. As a relationship coach, I have noticed the strong impact of vulnerability on sexual attraction. And as a real person who dates, I have seen the undeniable effects of vulnerability in my own life. Which is why I want to share the concept with you. Everyone is relationship challenged Even relationship coaches can have relationship challenges. Our challenges, or what I call "relationship setbacks,"  make us wise and understanding coaches. We know how hard it is to find love. Because we've been there and experienced ups and downs in the journe...
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