Self-Esteem

3 Reasons Why Self-Love Is Important

3 Reasons Why Self-Love Is Important
As a relationship coach, people often ask me why they are having a difficult time attracting the right people into their lives. They lament the difficulty of navigating dating, meeting people who are dysfunctional, or who don’t add value to their life. I get it. I’ve had my ups and downs when it came to finding someone who was truly compatible with me. And the reality is dating can be hard. I had to go through many instances where I even started to think maybe it was me that was the problem. Then I had an epiphany which helped me to understand things a lot better. The foundation for any hea...
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5 MAJOR TURN OFFS FOR MEN

5 MAJOR TURN OFFS FOR MEN
If you want love ladies, here's what NOT to do... Originally published on Jet Magazine. OK, ladies, it’s your turn. Recently we wrote an article about what turns off women. As you know, our lists could be longer, but we kept it to five. But what about men? What turns them off and gives them pause in a relationship? After interviewing a panel of men, I realized that as much as we may think turning on a man is easy, you’ll never fully succeed if you are always turning him off. If you’re wondering what’s shutting down your relationship success, read on to discover the five ways in which...
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Stop Validating Your Feelings for the Wrong One

Stop Validating Your Feelings for the Wrong One
Why Validate for Someone who Invalidates You It's hard when you are in love and you are constantly trying to validate your feelings for someone who won't be definitive or specific with you about their feelings for you. When this happens, you question yourself and your worth because when you are in a relationship like this where the emotions and energy are one-sided, it is a constant roller coaster of ups and downs. (more…)
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How Do You Make Yourself Happy?

How Do You Make Yourself Happy?
Why You Want Happiness  Happiness is something each of us wants and desires, but sometimes it eludes us. Being happy is one of the best feelings you can have and an emotional state that is often euphoric. Where does happiness come from? Can you truly be happy? Are there things you are doing to sabotoge your happiness? Let’s explore this topic further. (more…)
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3 Ways To Attract Who You Want

3 Ways To Attract Who You Want
Your Most Important Relationship James Sama, a Dating Expert, recently posted this quote on his Facebook page: "Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have." This is a simple but true statement. When I speak with my clients about their relationships and how they can get what they want from someone else, the question arises: "How do I attract who I want?" Or they start talking about the traits they want the other person to have. In order to know who you want to attract, you do need to know what traits you want the other person to have. But a more impo...
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You Are Perfect The Way You Are

You Are Perfect The Way You Are
What makes you unique is that each of you has something that is especially and specifically unique to you. Value that. Maybe you are a good dancer, a good drawer, or especially funny. Maybe you were born with a physical challenge or imperfection that actually made you more attune in another way.   This is what makes you - YOU! The world would be so boring if we were all the same and sometimes I think you need to be reminded that being you is a gift. God doesn't make mistakes.   Never let anyone make you feel as though you are not enough or unworthy because you freakin' fine just as you...
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