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This Is Everything You Need To Know About Finding A Healthy Relationship

This Is Everything You Need To Know About Finding A Healthy Relationship
No one ever said dating was easy. Social media and dating apps have entirely changed the dating landscape. However, if you are aware what to look for in your quest for love, navigating dating to find someone who is compatible with you can be easier. There are so many things which have probably happened to you in your dating experience. And this can make any sane person want to give up. But, before you are ghosted, DTR’d, or experience a slow fade, here are some helpful ways to determine if you are in a relationship that is on the right path. The bottom line is that people date in different w...
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Why Vulnerability is the Best Aphrodisiac

Why Vulnerability is the Best Aphrodisiac
Originally published in Elephant Journal. As a relationship coach, I have noticed the strong impact of vulnerability on sexual attraction. And as a real person who dates, I have seen the undeniable effects of vulnerability in my own life. Which is why I want to share the concept with you. Everyone is relationship challenged Even relationship coaches can have relationship challenges. Our challenges, or what I call "relationship setbacks,"  make us wise and understanding coaches. We know how hard it is to find love. Because we've been there and experienced ups and downs in the journe...
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3 Reasons Why Bad Relationships are the Best Teachers

3 Reasons Why Bad Relationships are the Best Teachers
Good relationships can teach us a lot. But bad relationships can teach us things too. In fact, our appreciation of a good relationship strengthens after we've been through bad relationships. Love is splendid and crazy. The ups, downs, good and bad times, good love, bad love, separations and reunions and break-ups combine to create interesting dynamics. This can show us who, how, and why we love. When a relationship is going well and the love is good, it is the best feeling. But when love takes a turn and things fall apart in a relationship, it can be the worst feeling. This may leave you...
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Is Infidelity the End of a Relationship?

Is Infidelity the End of a Relationship?
Originally published in Jet Magazine It use to be a time when infidelity was a deal breaker. After all, no one goes into a marriage with the goal of being unfaithful. But it appears as if times have changed. Although we marry with the intent of monogamy, infidelity can happen even when couples are well-suited for one another. But how do you know whether to throw in the towel or forgive your spouse for an indiscretion? If I asked 10 couples how they would react if their significant other cheated on them, their responses would vary. Some couples hold traditional values, while other coup...
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3 Post Divorce Lessons – You Will Survive!

3 Post Divorce Lessons – You Will Survive!
Sometimes you have days of introspection when you reflect on your life, and how things come full circle. You wonder if you made the right decisions, taken the right paths, are raising your kids the right way and what you may have missed along the way. This weekend was full of those types of thoughts for me, and I started thinking a lot about what I learned post-divorce that enabled me to move forward. If you are in the throes of a relationship, wondering what is going to happen next, these lessons may be helpful to you too. 1. You will be happy again. Divorce ranks in the top 3 of th...
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4 Lessons about Relationships from Beyoncé’s Lemonade

4 Lessons about Relationships from Beyoncé’s Lemonade
Ever since Beyoncé’s Lemonade was released about a week ago, everyone has been making assumptions about what is going on in her relationship with Jay-Z. This is partly because we like to talk about celebrities. It's also because we are drawn to relationship drama. Most people like to think they are not alone in having relationship problems. Infidelity, false hopes, or staying together when you want to leave are common issues many of us face. It is normal to hit crossroads in a relationship, especially when you have been with someone for a long time. It’s common to have to deal with communic...
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What Camping Can Teach You About Relationships

What Camping Can Teach You About Relationships
Recently, I went on a weekend hiking trip at the Grand Canyon with a small group of people and someone who very special to me. For many of us, it was our first hike to this particular campsite and we knew it would be a challenge. To get to the campsite and back, we had to hike 10-12 miles each way for a total of 20-24 miles. Additional hikes away from the campsite were 5-10 miles each way. It was a weekend full of walking. Hiking can be an intensive endeavor. As we walked through the canyon, much of the terrain consisted of sand or slippery rocks, and we often had to climb up or down in...
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Why Are You Still Single – The Great Love Debate

Why Are You Still Single – The Great Love Debate
Interestingly, for the first time in a long time in history, 50.2%of the population is single. Not too long ago, the norm was the opposite. Most of us were married. But, times have changed. We are waiting longer to get married because we want to make sure we marry the right person. Being single is ironic, especially in the age of hyper connectedness. You would think with all of the technology apps we have access to, it would be easier. But it's not. And, ironically, you may still be having a hard time connecting with what you really want - your soul mate. I will be at the Great Love Deba...
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Self-Love Makes You An Original Not A Copy

Self-Love Makes You An Original Not A Copy
Originals are always valued more. People will pay for something which is unique and different. I'm not equating you to be worth a monetary number. But what I am saying is how important it is that you know what makes you special and unique, because you definitely have something which is different, stands out, or is specific to who you are. It might be your wit, sense of humor, candor, or ability to rally others to a specific cause. You have something and that something can help you down the path to creating a healthy sense of self-love for yourself. As I coach my clients about finding mates ...
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Science Says Your Thoughts Really Matter

Science Says Your Thoughts Really Matter
Negative Thoughts are Contagious Most people understand how both positive thoughts and negative thoughts can have an impact on one's mindset, perspective, experience, and health. Now the science is there to explain why. As it turns out, our thoughts really do matter. In fact, the old adage "change your mindset, change your life" holds true. (more…)
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