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Is Infidelity the End of a Relationship?

Originally published in Jet Magazine

It use to be a time when infidelity was a deal breaker. After all, no one goes into a marriage with the goal of being unfaithful. But it appears as if times have changed.

Although we marry with the intent of monogamy, infidelity can happen even when couples are well-suited for one another. But how do you know whether to throw in the towel or forgive your spouse for an indiscretion?

If I asked 10 couples how they would react if their significant other cheated on them, their responses would vary. Some couples hold traditional values, while other couples are more liberal as to what they define as cheating. Most couples want to avoid infidelity, but relationship needs shift.

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Science Says Your Thoughts Really Matter

Negative Thoughts are Contagious

Most people understand how both positive thoughts and negative thoughts can have an impact on one’s mindset, perspective, experience, and health. Now the science is there to explain why. As it turns out, our thoughts really do matter. In fact, the old adage “change your mindset, change your life” holds true.

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In Relationships: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Too often, people will tell you what they think you want to hear. But if you look closely, you may see their actions do not match their words. Whenever this happens, pay attention to their behaviors, not the words that are being spoken.

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Stop Validating Your Feelings for the Wrong One

Why Validate for Someone who Invalidates You

It’s hard when you are in love and you are constantly trying to validate your feelings for someone who won’t be definitive or specific with you about their feelings for you.

When this happens, you question yourself and your worth because when you are in a relationship like this where the emotions and energy are one-sided, it is a constant roller coaster of ups and downs.

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