Originally published on Jet Magazine There is nothing more of a turn on for a woman than a man who knows how to push her …
Too often, people will tell you what they think you want to hear. But if you look closely, you may see their actions do not match their words. Whenever this happens, pay attention to their behaviors, not the words that are being spoken.
Why Validate for Someone who Invalidates You
It’s hard when you are in love and you are constantly trying to validate your feelings for someone who won’t be definitive or specific with you about their feelings for you.
When this happens, you question yourself and your worth because when you are in a relationship like this where the emotions and energy are one-sided, it is a constant roller coaster of ups and downs.
James M. Sama, a Life Coach, nails it in this quote. Let’s face it and acknowledge the obvious. Love can be complicated. Sometimes you love someone so much you put all of your energy, effort, and being into trying to make it work. Even when you need to move on, for some reason you hang in there and hope that if you keep trying and giving it your all with this person it will change things.
Being a professional woman in the dating scene can be tough. When you are attractive, intelligent, and a career woman, this adds complexity to the process of dating men. Here’s why.
Your Most Important Relationship James Sama, a Dating Expert, recently posted this quote on his Facebook page: “Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for …
“Give the world the best you have and the best will come back to you.”
—Madeline Bridges
I love this quote! It is applicable to so many aspects of our lives. For example, work, education, avocation, sports. We know that if we want to succeed in any endeavor, we have to work at it. This is true for family, school, business, exercise, and other life endeavors. Success takes hard work. But it is achievable. It can be done.
Succeeding in Your Relationship
But does hard work really pay off when it comes to our relationships?
Yesterday, I was a guest on Art ‘Chat Daddy’ Sims WVON 1690. We talked about how Chicago can be one of the worst cities in the country if you’re single. The stories are legend about the horrors of the Chicago dating scene.
As a native Chicagoan who has been single, married, divorced and a single mom, I could relate. I’ve dated as a single woman and a single mother. I am one of those sorry statistics.
While in a relationship, you might find yourself contemplating whether or not you should end it. It is normal to have second thoughts. However, if you find yourself dwelling on the idea of moving on, you might want to take such thoughts seriously. In fact, it might just be time to let go.
But how do you know for sure it’s time?
I was recently watching a TV show with a couple experiencing the infancy stage of their relationship. You may know how that feels because you have probably been there. This is the time period in which everything is going well, you are in tune with your partner, and you both are affectionate and loving.
The beginning of a relationship is generally the best part of any relationship. You cannot wait to see the other person. You are both being communicative and willing to settle disagreements quickly. But, in the back of your mind, you may be thinking to yourself this is just too good to be true.
This is when things can get cagey and you may start to self-sabotage your relationship. Fortunately, you can prevent this from happening.