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Ten Rules for Dating Smart

The dating scene continues to evolve with online dating, dating apps, texting, and other technology. Many aspects of dating have stayed the same, yet with all the new options available now, confusion can set in. Have all the old dating rules changed? Is there a right way and a wrong way to use the technology for dating? Can you really utilize modern technology to meet the right person for you?

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The Professional Woman’s Guide to Dating

Being a professional woman in the dating scene can be tough. When you are attractive, intelligent, and a career woman, this adds complexity to the process of dating men. Here’s why.

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Stop Waiting for Permission

Stop Waiting for Permission to Change

She wasn’t always successful. For years, Ava was not given the opportunity to direct the kind of movies she was interested in and few people knew about her work. She decided that if she wanted to direct the type of movies she was passionate about, she had to focus, make sacrifices, and create the content herself.

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How Do You Know When It’s Time to End a Relationship?

While in a relationship, you might find yourself contemplating whether or not you should end it. It is normal to have second thoughts. However, if you find yourself dwelling on the idea of moving on, you might want to take such thoughts seriously. In fact, it might just be time to let go.

But how do you know for sure it’s time?

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The 3 Most Common Relationship Mistakes

I was recently watching a TV show with a couple experiencing the infancy stage of their relationship. You may know how that feels because you have probably been there. This is the time period in which everything is going well, you are in tune with your partner, and you both are affectionate and loving.

The beginning of a relationship is generally the best part of any relationship. You cannot wait to see the other person. You are both being communicative and willing to settle disagreements quickly. But, in the back of your mind, you may be thinking to yourself this is just too good to be true.

This is when things can get cagey and you may start to self-sabotage your relationship. Fortunately, you can prevent this from happening.

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8 Ways Singles Can Beat the Holiday Blues

 

Holiday Blues                                                                           Photo Credit lesserevillife.com

Art Sims of WVON 1690 and I recently talked about some ways singles can prevent the holiday blues. Here’s what we discussed during the talk radio show.

It’s that time of year again. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s bring lots of holiday excitement. There is much emphasis on seeing family, friends, and loved ones. But when you are single, the holiday season can feel lonely.

Most people have high expectations around the holiday season. There is much involvement with family, visits and parties with friends, a lot of holiday anticipation, and excitement coupled with stress. There is pressure to give the perfect gift, have the perfect meal, and experience the perfect holiday. This can lead to pressuring yourself to expend a great deal of energy in order to please everyone. This is usually followed by exhaustion and emotional letdown once the holidays are over.

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Life’s Got You Down – Here Is How You Can Reset!

 

Life is Crazy Picture

Life is a crazy thing and very inconsistent. It can be lovely, devastating, and uncharacteristic for the most part. You start off your life with good intentions. You don’t see divorce, death, illness and setbacks as part of your lives. We are eternally optimistic. In fact, we feel we will overcome much of the strife that we actually will in fact face. But, the reality is that we are likely to experience one or more of these events as we go though our lives.

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Divorce Selfies: The New Way to Breaking Up  

divorce-selfies              Photo Credit: Zliving

 Divorce selfies are trending on Twitter and Instagram under the hashtag #divorceselfies. This is an interesting phenomenon involving people who wish to publicize their divorce. They typically post a happy picture of themselves as a couple following the finalization of the divorce. Many acknowledge how glad they are to have had the relationship, but speak of accepting that the relationship did not work out. This is a sign of couples opting to bow out gracefully during the process of divorce.

 This is a new trend in divorce. Gone is the acrimony, the fights, the anger and bad blood. Instead, many couples are admitting that the relationship did not work for them, choosing instead to end things on good terms. They are celebrating the good that happened in the relationship, honoring the marriage experience, and moving on to friendship or even to working together to co-parent post marriage.

Not that long ago, there was a stigma attached to being divorced. You were odd man or woman out if you were a single parent. People felt ashamed when a marriage ended up in divorce. This new trend is a completely different way to look at a failed marriage. In fact, the progression marks a significant social change.

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HOW TO RAISE A SUCCESSFUL CHILD AS A SINGLE PARENT

As we get into the political season yet again, the pundits take aim at single parents, blaming us for increased crime, drug abuse, incarceration, poor parenting, poverty, and pretty much everything else under the sun.

As a single parent who raised a good, successful child, I get incensed just listening to the rhetoric. I am tired of the blame shifted to single moms for all of these ills. After all, it takes two to consummate a relationship and have a child.

If there are single moms, there are single dads too. So why isn’t the turmoil seen as a joint responsibility instead of all the blame being focused on one parent? Why don’t the pundits ever acknowledge the fact that single parents have certain advantages that two parent homes don’t? Why aren’t we helping those single parents struggling to raise their kids by providing them with what they need for raising a successful child?

In order to open up a dialogue about the topic, I want to dispel the myths.

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